The "Loving" words spoken and then respoken

It's Never "Little Star", It's Always Someone Else's Fault - Aaaahhh - the wonderous advice that continues to this day slam me from my grandmother's mental meltdown and assault upon my character that continued to assault me onto my children, how sweet the world is. So as I attempt to discipline my teenage son, whose mouth has become that of a sailor and whose lack of empathy reminds me of his father, my parents, and my grandmother combined, sending him to his room with no tv at 11pm (oh, the horror) becomes an ordeal and out spews forth the venom that he has now been filled with, the words verbatim spoken - finally an astute student, but at what. Is it grand to see a monster spill forth out of your own, mimicking the monsters that tormented you until you could get away, the ones that killed any chance you had at a childhood. How distorted the views and thoughts now flow from my son's tongue, that I wasn't there (I worked 3 jobs at times, but found ways to be home for lunch with him, programs, games, practice, always there for dinner and bed - I provided), that I didn't take care of him (well who did, not anyone else, no one else hugged, loved, bathed, bought clothes, toys, tutored, built projects or in some cases wrote them last minute so he would pass), that I wasn't there (again I was always there - where did this distorted view come from), that I wasn't there emotional (who defended him, knew when things were wrong, fought with him so he would go into the deeper feelings, hired the therapist and took him every week - I guess that couldn't have been me). He compared how I treat him to his sister, I reminded him that his sister gets punished according to her actions and the reoccurence, so what is going on with him. Now the brainwashing, the continuing of the circle labeling me, punishing me for getting away, for looking them in the face and calling them as I see it and them - my family has reach up from the gutter and touched somewhere in the recesses of my son a character flaw to exploit and water to grow at great length to hurt me. Why do this to my children first and foremost, why do it to children at all - there is a need to keep innocence still around in them for as long as possible, yet for some reason my own family has set out to jade them. This is further examples of their inexcusable behavior, their continual abuse, their need to abuse at all costs (whatever they might be), there is no such thing as the welfare of my children or their state of mind, body, or spirit as long as they get their message out and it somehow continues to live and grow down the lineage I am sure they will be quite content with themselves.